Benefit Based Fashion / Cotton Club

September 10, dozens of local children to take a break in hospitals, procedures, drugs or grief to hit the track at a Fashion Show / Cotton Club annual benefit you Nidito children and Family Services.

"It's their night. This is a really special night for them to shine. It is something positive away from the daily pain, they do," said Laura DiChristofano, co-chair of the event Amy Breckenridge.

Both are members of the Ladies of Tucson, a diverse group of about 15 women dedicated to solving the problems of children.

At the beginning of seven years ago, the Council opted for Tu Nidito than the recipient. Since then, DiChristofano said members are in essence become the advocates of non-profit organization that seeks to provide comfort, hope and support to children and families whose lives have been affected by serious illness or death.

"We have a close relationship with the Nidito You and to love the work they are doing," he said DiChristofano. "We need a fashion show to raise more than 15 percent of their annual operating budget and more than 90 cents for every dollar given to them goes directly to families and children and their care."

Last year, that Nidito served over 800 children through seven core programs and summer camp. Programs for children with serious illnesses are one-on-one support from social workers and social workers, support groups and courage pearls, documentation of children throughout their journey to health with colors, beads hand.

Programs for children 3-18 years who have a parent with cancer or other serious diseases are life-support groups and activities. Age-specific support pain of those who have lost someone to disease or Homicide is available in the children's children, where young people receive support from colleagues who have gone through the same loss; groups are available for young adults, too.

You Nidito also served as a resource during the tragic events of January 8, Development Coordinator Alexis Quintana said.

"We made well over 100 awareness presentations over the years, not just the extension of benefits to families of the victims, but offered advice to parents on how to talk to their children about the tragedy. We also provided information to the various EU bodies and schools to help people deal with, "said Quintana.

You Nidito staff are experts in helping children and families cope during the toughest battles of life, said the fashion show publicity chairman Shelly Stewart.

"Both need to meet, was not served before. If you've never touched cancer or an illness or a death in the family, because so many of us have, you know how important this is and how children often have difficulty with these things "he said. "You Nidito is a little 'easier."

Stewart said DiChristofano and sincere, inspiring the next non-profit will be in full screen during the parade to come, combined with the excitement and pleasure symbolized by the Cotton Club to the golden age of jazz.

"It 'was the elite of people get dressed and go to hear live music and enjoy their families," said DiChristofano. "This is a nod to that time and fashion that they were using."

Friends with Benefits? Well, It’s Complicated

Jul. 22 2011 - 6:39 pm 

Looks like the just released  Friends with Benefits is going to be a big hit. The early reviews will definitely help.  Manohla Dargis in the NY Times writes it’s “a breezy, speedy and (no kidding) funny comedy with a nicely matched Justin Timberlake and Mila Kunis.” Peter Debruge notes “Kunis is a natural with comedy, and now we know she can carry a movie, while Timberlake exudes the kind of star wattage that put Will Smith on top.”

See for yourself, the trailer reveals some PG sparkle from this R-rated rom-com.

But there’s more here to pull people into theaters than star power, witty sit-com timing, and genre bending play. There’s even more, as Juliet Lapidos complains about at Slate, than just the post Harry and Sally cliche that men and women (especially gorgeous, athletic, successful—basically sexy—men and women) can’t be “just friends.”

What there is is sex. Messy, fleshy sex and what it does to people. Friends with Benefits is an effervescent pop-culture attempt at wrangling messy, disregulating sexual experiences into neat, well-regulated categories. You gotta love ‘em for trying. When Kunis’ character says “No emotions, just sex” and then immediately puts the kibosh on Timberlake’s character’s cliched stab at being emotionally supportive, the movie is not just turning a standard romantic comedy cliche on it’s head. Rather, it’s offering soothing reassurance to everyone who has ever felt the out-of-control demi-madness sexual experience can bring—let’s get down to business and do it right! Because the two are not “in a relationship” they felt free to go sex crazy, and they had tremendous fun doing it.

Of course, having so much pleasure with another person is going to leave its mark. So, forget Hollywood’s refracted vision, does it actually work to be a friend with benefits in real life where everyone is much more complicated, needier, and not quite so beautiful. What happens to friendship once sex starts playing a role? Can people just ignore all the psychological, as well as physiological, consequences of sexual experience?

In a word, no. You can’t ignore the consequences of sex anymore than you can those of baseball, dinner, or spending a hot summer afternoon giggling together in a cool movie theater. But sex is even more powerful. Trying to be “friends with benefits” is like trying to make ice cream in a hot oven. It’s the flip-side of a sexless relationship, which is like trying to cook a steak in the freezer. Something’s going to give. With FwB sometimes people become lovers, other times a couple. Often the sex just stops. Or the friendship. Or both.

Unfortunately, ice cream in the oven can also make a real mess. Rebecca Plante, a sociologist at Ithaca College, has been part of a team conducting a multi-campus interview study about sexuality. Concerning the friends with benefits arrangement she said:

“research shows that perhaps the most frequent consequence is awkwardness, accompanied by strained or ceased contact and eventually either future hook ups or the resumption of a non-sexual friendship”

So why bother trying?

“Friends with benefits is a way to explore some sexuality within a friendship, an existing framework of some care and knowledge of one another”

via “Friends with Benefits” Lets Couples Get Close But Not Too Close.

Of course, college students are a unique demographic still relatively untarnished by adult life. My clinical experience is consistent but different as one would expect knowing older people for a longer period of time who have less of a need to explore and a greater need to get on with their lives. For adults, what I’ve seen is that FwB status is usually  transitional, both in intent and outcome. Instead of looking for Mr. or Ms. Right, it’s a way of enjoying Mr. or Ms. “She/He will do for now.”  Like the movie, it’s often a way to find someone while on the rebound. Or like Natalie Portman in last year’s No Strings Attached, its a sexual rest area when someone is  just too busy with career. It’s a way to go sex crazy in “an existing framework of some care and knowledge of one another”  rather than trying to do so with a stranger or with someone who may have different expectations. It may put a friendship at risk, but life is risk.

So, does this all mean one shouldn’t try? Of course not, especially if it’s with Justin Timberlake or Mila Kunis. But don’t expect it to work out as planned. Remember, once those benefits are in the picture, it’s complicated.